Backhanded motivation

I like to consider myself a highly motivated individual. I was always taught to finish whatever I started, so, for lack of a better cliche, ‘quitting’ isn’t part of my vocabulary. I’d like to share with you my oddly negative sounding approach to leading a motivated life.

Every day the sun rises and the sun sets. In other words, no matter what you do in life, whatever decisions you make, every day will come and go. Now, this can be looked at either negatively – I don’t matter, the days come and go, who cares what happens, or positively – I get an entire brand new day to live it joyfully. I choose the latter. We’re so quick to make mountains out of molehills. We get so preoccupied with how the world perceives us. We focus on our ideas and judgements of ourselves. But really, at the end of the day, well… the end of the day will come! So, whether you decide to spend the day in misery thinking about all of your shortcomings that you (and only you) have attached yourself to, or with a joyful heart and gratitude for the opportunity to live another beautiful day in this life, it really doesn’t matter. It’s up to you to decide how you’ll pass the time.

Nothing lasts forever. At the end of the day, we’re all going to die. Woah, that took a dark turn! Hear me out: No absolute amazing feeling lasts forever, just as no absolute shitty feeling lasts forever. Let me repeat that: No absolute shitty feeling lasts forever. I had a very tough time starting my business. I made next to no money for a long time. I had so many moments of wanting to give up, thinking that I was stupid to think that I could pull off being an entrepreneur. But there was this voice inside of me that kept saying, “You’re not a quitter, this shitty time will pass, you won’t be in the same place as you are today, 10 years from now!” And I listened to it. I decided that in order to get through this shitty time, I needed some secondary income. So I got a part time job to help me offset my expenses so that I could focus on growing my business. After one year of this part time work, I quit and have been supporting myself since. That financially stressful time didn’t last forever, neither did that part time job. When you’re in a rut, look for opportunities to help you wiggle out of it, but don’t give up on your dream just because that seems easier!

No one cares about your goals. And I mean that in a nice way! Imagine me smiling when I say this. We all have our own goals, but the truth is no one cares about them as much as we, ourselves, do. Just think about it: Would your friends and family love you any less if you didn’t have the goals that you have? Probably not. Love should be unconditional, so your true people won’t really care if you want to lose 10 lbs, or buy a house, or build a business. They’ll still want to be a part of your life! Others can help you with the steps it takes to reach your goals – your trainer can give you the tools to help you lose weight, your real estate agent can help you search for a house, your friends can connect you with other professionals in your field. But, at the end of the day, they’re not the ones going to bed wishing and hoping to achieve your goals. People care about you, but your goals are all your own. Foster them, focus on them, use your resources to achieve them. Whether you reach them or not, though, you’re still a great human being who wakes up every day with an opportunity to shine brightly and live your individual life to it’s fullest!

Stay happy everyone!

2 thoughts on “Backhanded motivation

  1. I love this! I like to think things like “your life goes by in the blink of an eye,” or “you are a tiny speck of dust on this planet.” So humbling! It reminds me to be good to others, as well as myself. Plus it takes a lot of pressure off of me. I’m not so important that everyone is watching and waiting to see me succeed or fail! I can tell myself to just chill and do my shit!


    1. Thanks for commenting Vicky! I totally agree with everything you said! You get it too, it’s so much nicer when you have this insight because you can just do you and be cool with it 🙂


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